your new path

There are some situations in life that you may have initially thought was the right path, a relationship, that perfect job… yet you have this sinking feeling that this isn’t what you truly wanted.

In life you should give your all and go relentlessly after dreams and there are some things that you just need to let go of. How will you know when to let go? This is often very scary. But one thing I have discovered is that with the courage to let go of the path you once thought was right, will often lead you to the path that was met for you.

I am not saying that you should just give up when things aren’t working out, in fact some situations may be working out just fine, yet… there is that sinking feeling that you are not on the right path. You feel something else calling you, a new direction yet… the fear of criticism, shame, what if it doesn’t work out, what will people think keeps you prisoner to a path that you know isn’t right for you.

Here are some ways to embrace new directions:

#1 Let Go

Often we hold on because of our own ego. The fear of being judged, rejected, that someone else will take our place or that we will miss out, even though deep inside you already know that this is not the right path. So instead of going with the flow of life and embrace this new urge to do something new, we try to hold on and force things.

Sometimes the more you try to hold on, the more you struggling because suddenly it is not about achieving the goal anymore, it is about proving a point or staying safe. There is a difference between relentlessly pursuing a path and struggling in that path.

Take some time out and ask yourself, will this path truly serve the goals that I want to accomplish? Go back to the “why” of what you want to accomplish and what a new direction could mean for you. Sometimes stepping back from the situation can give you greater clarity and objective focus.

#2 There is more than one way

We can become so fixed on the outcome of a situation that we miss out on the multi-route journey that may be available to us. Letting go of a plan doesn’t mean letting go of your dreams; it may mean that there is another plan that will better help you achieve the same and sometimes an even better outcome.

You may need to determine for yourself or seek the advise of someone qualified to help you find new tools and strategies that will help you achieve your goal.

Try asking questions like “Is there another way to achieve that same goal?”, “Is there someone who can help me get better clarity and strategies to achieve this?” You don’t need to always DIY your life, it’s OK to ask for help!

#3 Embrace the adventure

Life is a journey not a destination. Often it is not the accomplishment of the goal that makes us a better person, it is who we are becoming while on the journey to achieve a particular outcome that counts. Letting go of an old path or habit can be frightening. There is so much uncertainty.

Questions like what if I fail, what if I never achieve my goal? Often these questions cannot be answered until we let go and trust that we are being divinely guided. You have to be willing to embrace new adventures knowing that no matter where the road leads you are winning.

Instead of going negative try asking “what if I win?, what if my life becomes everything I always wanted?”. In every situation, always try to go positive, ask positive questions and you may be amazed what you discover.